Sunday, October 28, 2012

Shepard's Fall Party 2012

This weekend was my Aunt Heidi's (Mom's sister) annual hayride, she invites both her family and her husbands family out for great food, a bonfire and a hayride! Even though we are in KC we did not want to miss this family affair so we packed up Zo and headed East!

We brought the dog's costumes in hopes to get a photo with all of the "grand kids" in costume! With nap time, errands and of course Hank's busy schedule, it just didn't seem possible. I was a little bummed but considering the dogs were not being good participants I assume the addition of 3 kids may not have made things any easier. Since I could not get photos of everyone together will you settle for two photos close together?
                                       
                                                Wonder Woman and Super Man                                                    
                                    
                                                       Batman, Robin and Cat Woman

There was quite the spread at Aunt Heidi's, the most exciting treat being werewolf cupcakes made by my cousin Sarah. They were absolutely adorable as well as delicious! \ Maybe we can start calling Sarah the "Little Chef" instead of me?


The kiddos came as Batman, Robin, and Cat Woman, and Heidi's niece Charlotte, who is Sophie's age (same birthday!) was Dorothy from Wizard of Oz, they were too cute! Charlotte found that Jack was easy to boss around and he seemed to enjoy it! It must be easy to get along when you don't share a house with someone! I did not partake in the Hayride... because I didn't want to... but everyone who went really enjoyed themselves.

                                    Charlotte as Dorothy                    Jack and Charlotte  
Jack insisted "Papa" come on the hayride

Thursday, October 25, 2012

When the Money Runs Out...


It is Tuesday night, the 23rd and I just now realized how appropriate my budget post was. We are already $1 over our grocery budget, of course “groceries” includes toiletries, cleaning products and dog food as well. We have $29 left in our “out to eat” budget, but to be honest I would rather starve than miss out on my restaurant food!

Quite often we go $5-10 over in a few places but we run short in others, so 9 times out of 10 we are still below budget, however since my previous post I've really been reminded that I budget for a reason, to save money.

As the good Dave Ramsey says “live off of rice and beans, beans and rice if you have to” luckily I think we can do a bit better than rice and beans.

               
Tuesday- I had cereal, which is fine because I love cereal, Simon had left over casserole and made his fancy “fried” corn from a can we had in the pantry.


Wednesday- I put a frozen soup in the fridge to thaw the night before and we had a box of Jiffy corn bread mix. I didn’t feel very good all day so I was content with 2 corn bread muffins. I did finish the soup for lunch the following day though.

Thursday- Waffles (Cinderella pumpkin spice waffles to be exact) and sausage, we are both huge breakfast fans and breakfast is a great meal to cook together, which is something we hardly ever do, quite possibly because I micro manage my kitchen.



So I know you are thinking “anyone can ‘scrounge’ for 3 days.” (I see you cringing at that word sister.) In our house we scavenge frequently without thinking about it, but there is something about knowing it is your only option that really stinks! Like being on a diet, all you want to do is break it!

We still have 6 more days until the budget starts over, we are lucking out in the fact that we are going to St Louis for the weekend for my aunt Heidi’s annual fall party. We already budgeted for “travel” which is gas and snacks and we will mooch off my parents over the weekend, and possibly raid their pantry to make it through the rest of the month when we get back!

Happy Budgeting!

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Wise Spending


Today I would like to blog about something that is DEFINITELY a big issue in today’s society, and even though the politicians won’t shut up about it I don’t think this will get anyone’s panties in a twist.
DEBT! Not national debt, personal debt.  Most likely, everyone has at least some. I always wonder how people my age are buying brand new cars or going on grand vacations, I like to rationalize that their parent’s paid for it, or that their entry level job pays over 50k. Unfortunately, I can only guess the occasional loan or credit card comes into play. Yes I was raised by Dave Ramsey Jr, however Dave Jr is debt free besides a 15 year mortgage and spends his weekends hunting and fixing up his corvette and motorcycle, so I can only assume there has to be something to this wise spending. I thought I would share some things the real Dave Ramsey, my dad and even my older sister have taught me about wise spending.

1.  If you can’t pay cash, you can’t afford it
2. Live below your means
3. Debt is a sinking ship, get out
4. Budget, physically budget
5. Invest for retirement
6. Shared money is for spouses not significant others

Now to further delve into each point.
1.       Credit cards have their place, such as hotel rooms or to build credit, I always use one on websites I am not familiar with. Credit cards are just imaginary money, like Monopoly money. I guess I don’t have a ton of experience because I don’t ever keep a balance on my card, but paying to spend my own money seems silly. If I use a card, as soon as the amount shows up on my card, I pay it off. Credit card purchases are recorded in the budget just like cash purchases.

2.       We try to save as much as possible, of course having 2 houses puts a damper on that. When budgeting I first figure out the needs, then allot for wants, if you don’t give yourself a budget for “wants” you will end up going over budget, or I would anyway. There are lots of websites that give pointers on how much you should save but personally I just save as much as I can.

3.       Just about everyone have some kind of debt, even if it’s just a mortgage, which is technically “good debt.” People my age most likely have student loans and car payments. We only have one year worth of loans from a state university, thanks to the MR, but in 2 years we only have about 40% of the loan left, not great but not bad. Our cars are not great but they work and neither of us has ever had car payments.  Loans have a place of course, if your car craps out and sharing cars isn’t feasible obviously you may have to take out a loan. If you do, do you really need that brand new car? Or even the barely used car? Your ego may enjoy it but your wallet won’t. One thing that I always thought was a joke, but I have ran into over a handful of people in real life who keep going back to school in order to push back student loan payments. Talk about fanning the fire! Student loans do NOT go away if you file bankruptcy, I don’t think even death will get you or your loved ones out of them.

4.       Have a budget, a written down or typed budget… keeping one in your head makes it more of an idea than a real thing. It’s one thing to say “I will not overdraw my account at the mall” versus “I cannot spend over $100 at the mall.” I used to keep a notebook, but after misplacing it at least twice a week I switched to a spread sheet. Most likely if you are married, one of you will be more apt to keeping up the budget, if this person is you ,keep the other person updated on how much you have to spend and what you have left at the end of each week. I also keep track of the online banking so I tell my husband when to make the student loan payment and how much to pay on it, I also know if we can or can’t go at to dinner. An almost fool proof way to budget is what I call, and I think Dave calls, “the envelope system” budget out a certain amount of money for everything, excluding automatic withdrawals or purchases where cash is not accepted, then hit up the ATM and fill your envelopes with cash, when the cash is gone, no more spending.

5.       Investing for retirement is much more important than it used to be, not sure about you but I don’t have any faith in the social security system. There are different ways to save, you can do a good old fashioned savings account, but your money isn’t going to grow… on the upside your money is guaranteed to still be there in full when you need it and you can draw it out at any time. I am a fan of Roth IRA’s and Roth 401K’s. “Roth” means it is pre-taxed, so if your work offers a plan and you choose a Roth, they will take out your taxes then take out the amount for the Roth. A simple IRA or 401K, will be taken out pre-tax. The real benefits of the Roth is, one, you don’t even realize you are paying taxes on the money, and second, you will not have to pay taxes when it’s time to use that money. Lastly, if you are like me, you are probably hoping to be in a higher tax bracket when you retire than you are now… do you really want to pay more in the future than you would have 30 years prior?

6.       Sharing money is for spouses, this does not refer to going Dutch on dinner or splitting the rent, obviously most unmarried couples will do this. What it is referring to, is much bigger payments such as loans, cars, etc. Dave Ramsey would say you shouldn’t live with someone you aren’t married to, I say, do what you want. However, paying off your boyfriend’s car is not your issue… until you are married. Before we got married, I did start putting away money for Simon’s loans; however all I did was put it away. He made all the payments with his very own money until we were married then I helped him knock it down with the money I had saved. Maybe it’s the former pre-law student in me, but I know if I buy Simon the world and something doesn’t work out… I can get that money back in court, not sure if Judge Judy is going to care that you paid off someone else’s loan.  So basically don’t pay for anything you would regret paying for if the relationship went south. Will you regret paying for dinner? I imagine not, but would you regret that you paid off that speed boat you have never even been on? I would think so.

Now that we are married, money is money and there is no such thing as mine/yours. We are on a tight budget and work lunches, gas, and groceries are the only things that don’t call for a discussion first. All couples are different though and I know several couples who have separate bank accounts and have divided all costs, if that works do it, as long as you are both on the same page.
Some of the best advice about spending I ever received was from a coworker who got the advice from his parents, it was “don’t expect to live the lifestyle we live now when your 20” I am constantly reminding myself of this. Actually the Mr. and I are probably doing better than my parents were at our age. Won’t say I don’t turn green when my parent’s take 8 vacations a year but I’m learning.

Saturday, October 20, 2012

Kansas City

Obviously I am a terrible and inconsistent blogger...

 We moved To Kansas City the beginning of June, Simon was not satisfied at work so we agreed to expand his hunt to Kansas City. It seems our parent's generation are more than willing to stay in jobs they are unhappy with solely for a paycheck, Simon and I cannot function like that. Simon applied at Cerner, a very large medical software company headquartered in Kansas City and of course they loved him because he is awesome. I was very disappointed to leave St Louis and my friends and family but Simon needs a company he can grow with and enjoy.

We got ourselves together and to Kansas City and about 3 weeks, luckily Simon's parent's live here and helped us house hunt for a rental. We would have loved to just get a cheap apartment but with 2 dogs that really wasn't an option (we aren't consistent enough at going on walks and Hank barks in his kennel when we leave which would not be conducive to shared walls. All of our parent's and some good friends helped us move, I of course sat with my friends Kelly and we maintained care of the dogs and her daughter while the men did the heavy lifting.

Simon's step sister in law put in a good word for me at her work and I am a data entry and contract analyst at a logistics software company called Catapult International, I really enjoy the company atmosphere, the work and the flexibility. It's very interesting that both of us ended up working for software companies.

We are very disheartened to not have sold our house and are considering listing with a new agent. I do however feel very blessed that we are able to manage both houses and that both of our families have been very supportive. A huge weight will be lifted once we do sell, we would love to put more money away so we can hopefully buy a house within a few years.

We live in Overland Park Kansas which is a really great community, everything we want is within 15 minutes drive and the city is kept up very well. Of course the downside is that Overland Park is that it is expensive, our rent is higher than our mortgage and this is actually one of the cheaper places we looked at. We really do hope to stay in Johnson County even though we could definitely get more for our money on the Missouri side.

The dogs love our huge fenced in yard, but for the time being Hank is at "College" in Troy Missouri with my dad. Being a purebred Brittany from a long line of hunters he has quite the drive, and Dad has taken over his hunting lessons. We went with a hunting breed because especially in this part of the country most of the puppies come from puppy mills and health was very important to us. Simon is a hunter but not as committed as my Dad who loves the project of Hank.


There is definitely a difference between dogs bred to hunt and hunting breeds. Zoe, our beagle, is a hunting breed... a rabbit dog. She certainly loves to sniff but is very pleased to lie on the couch all day. Hank however was bred to hunt, he is the Grandson of Nolan's Last Bullet (a very google-able dog) a 32 time National field trial champ, his parents and other relatives are also winning hunters. He is driven to hunt, and he needs special attention. Why do I mention this? Whenever I would gripe about him terrorizing our home friends would say, "oh well we have a lab and he's great" or "I know some Brittany's and they are so mild tempered" I am sure those people are correct, but like Pitbulls bred to fight vs the adorable Pitbulls families own and  let their children ride, there IS a difference.